FRIENDSHIP

Friendship,is a distinctively personal relationship based on the concern that each friend has for the other.Friends can help shape who we are as persons.

How much can we expect from a friend?As parents we know our duties, as a family we know our duties, as a Friend do we know as to how much expectations are there from us?

We have heard this age old proverb " A friend in need is a friend indeed".Trust and Confidence is another very important factor in friendship. Friends love unconditionally. Friends do argue,but its forgotten then and there.

I met my friend of 15yrs yesterday and we started conversing as though we just spoke yesterday inspite of it being years together since we met.

A real friend is the one who has the guts to say "stop whining and move on with life". A real friend is one who does not just drop into your party, he comes early to help you cook and organise. A real friend is the one who ask you why you took so long to call.A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.You know you have a real friend when you call up at midnight and she is willing to listen to you as she knows you are upset. They will be there for you,without asking you any questions and will advice only when they feel you require it. They are beside you to LISTEN. Friendship is when they push you when you need it,not too hard and stand back when the time is right but not too far that you cant reach them. You can do nothing or something with your best friend and still feel that you have had the best time in your life. Your best friends family soon feels like your own.When your heart is broken, your best friend will be the best Band-aid for it.

I've learned that, most importantly of all, best friends will always be best friends, no matter what is happening in their lives, where they are, or what they are doing. A best friend is irreplaceable. This is the most important thing I could have ever been taught by a best friend.

PRIORITY TEST

This is truly brilliant.... It can't get more accurate than this!!!! Sigmund Freud's priorities test.

Five things are happening in your house at the same time. In whichsequence would you solve them?

1. The telephone is ringing!

2. The baby is crying!

3. Someone's knocking or calling you from the front door!

4. You hung the clothes out to dry and it is beginning to rain!

5. You left the tap on in the kitchen and the water is already overflowing!

In which sequence would you solve these problems? Write the sequence and do check below how your decisions were made. BUT BE HONEST, THEFINDINGS ARE EXCITING. First write YOUR sequence from 1 to 5 then scroll below and read after!

Answer:Every individual point represents something in your life. On the listyou can see which meaning every point has:

1. Telephone represents =Work*

2. Baby represents =Family*

3. Door represents =Friends*

4. Clothes represent =Money*

5. Tap represents =Love life*

- Your chosen sequence determines the priorities in your life

Dealing with Anger

A nice story that I read, thought will share it with all of you.

Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion.One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake." Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?" The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift." The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself." "If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. "You are right, o Enlightened One, "he said. "Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower." The Buddha answered kindly, "Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me."

TOXIC PEOPLE

I was reading my friend's blog http://geeths-impulse.blogspot.com/, her post motivated me to write my next blog on "Toxic people".

Those with whom we assemble, we soon resemble.

This is a saying which we may have heard many times but find it hard to accept. Have you ever felt that when you meet some people you kind of start feeling depressed after some time.That's a perfect example of the effect of hanging out with the wrong friends. When we are unconscious to the operation of our minds, any indigent thought or feeling that passes through us has the power to strike up a conversation and drag us into its dark circle of influence.

But just the way it is possible to be in bad company that pulls us down, it is also possible to keep positive company that raises our spirits. This means that we should be able to choose whose company we need to keep.

There are people around us who thrive by bringing up painful events to memory and then revel in anger and resentment over it. Some of them love to gossip,critcise,feel jealous,are selfish and judge others , thus raising themselves. These set of people spread negative thought power. We should never encourage such people.Remember that ,in encouraging them you are discouraging yourself.Toxic people can drain you of your health,sanity and energy.

So start right now, let go of these toxic people from your lives. You cannot change their actions but you can change yourself.This positive action will change your life.You will feel cheerful, fresh,light in your heart.

As i write this blog this poem comes to mind..

"Daffodils" (1804)
I WANDER'D lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;Beside the lake, beneath the trees,Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.
Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the Milky Way,They stretch'd in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:Ten thousand saw I at a glance,Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.
The waves beside them danced; but they
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:A poet could not but be gay,
In such a jocund company:I gazed -- and gazed -- but little thoughtWhat wealth the show to me had brought:
For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;And then my heart with pleasure fills,And dances with the daffodils.
By William Wordsworth (1770-1850).

LOST to LOTS

I was having a discussion with a good friend (geetha) ,when i came across this statement I made to her over a discussion on how lost we feel when we sit down to do something and when we are just talking we seem to have lots to discuss on topics-be it family, friends, art, current topics,budget,studies and the list is endless. Hence the title.

So i thought why not pursue my passion for art. I came across this wonderful blog created by Madhavi in which she shares her ideas about art and craft http://blogandsoul.com/getcrafty/. She has likeminded people who post their work too. I too joined the bandwagon and must say i did get a lot of encouraging comments for my art. It was indeed boosting my confidence. So lets all move from being LOST to LOTS. Go ahead Explore , remember "THERE IS TIME ,THERE IS TIME"

There isn't time There isn't time

There isn't time ,there isn't time, this is a poem Ayush is studying now. Its a lovely poem where the poet says that there are so many things she would like to do , but there is so little time in the world.

We all keep saying we dont have the time. We have to make time if we need to do something. We make time for office work, household work, children's homework, but why dont we make time for relationship and communication? We are not able to do so, cos relationships have been taken for granted. Be it Good or Bad, I still feel that if we dont communicate enough then over a period the relationship will deteriorate.

Take time out to say a Hello to your near and dear ones. Put a smile on their face.
"So many people to know, so little time"

7 style Uthapam

We had this t saravana and were expecting something really elaborate when we heard the name, but what comes by, small sized uthapam(the likes of which i make for ayush snack box) topped with about 6 varieties of chutney(thenga, pudina, corriander, onion ,tomato, garlic, )last but not least 7th one was the ketchup. oh no what disappointment for srikanth. But, Ayush found it amazing and colourful, so here u go another add on to our children recipe book..

Schezwan Idli

Idlis are a boring food item for the kids, i saw this recipe on tv on "how to make idli look more inviting"
Make idli the ususal way, chop onions, capsicum, tomatoes ,corn and toss them over a little oil. Add schezwan sauce(if u have) else u can substitute it with our good old Maggi Hot and sweet sauce. Add the idlis which have been cut into small pieces. Mix them well and garnish with corrainder. It tasted yumm and looked delicious. Ayush enjoyed it a lot..

Disappointment

Well, a comment from my Sil has given me the next topic of discussion. "Disappointments".

Why are we disappointed?? Because we have expectations. Is it wrong to have expectations then? Well this is a common question which comes to every person's mind when he does not get what he expects. Expectations are like Dreams, You cannot achieve if you do not dream.

We tell our children dream big, then we also tell them if they dont achieve that, dont feel sad. Be happy that you tried.
When we are a child we feel disappointed when we dont get our tv time ,favourite toy, ice cream when we ask for it.
We start going to school, we get disappointed when we dont score well.
We apply for colleges and feel disappointed when we dont get the stream that we want.
We apply for jobs and are not happy with the offers that we get.
We await for our Mr.Right or Mrs.Right and are disappointed when we dont get the perfect one.
We become a mother and are disappointed when our career takes a back seat.
Well there are so many more to come.. but do we just sit back and take it like this. NO , we move on , we compromise, we understand, we self - motivate. In all we should SELF ACTUALIZE.

CHEER UP AND BE POSITIVE.

Anniversary

Anniversary and Birthdays are a good time to recollect how you have grown in your life and relationships. Yesterday we (Mouli, Gayathri, her dad, Madhur, Soumya,Ravi athim,Mihir,Pragny,Srikanth,Ayush and self) had got together for lunch for Mouli and Gayathri's anniversary. We missed you Sunchu and Kams. We had a good time at Saravana Bhavan. I remember this outlet was rather a small one near churchpark school. I saw yesterday that it has not become a 3 tier building with a bakery which just smells yummm when you enter, then the buffet which has about atleast 40 varieties of food may b more too.. Well Chennai has definelty changed a lot since i left 9 years ago. The children had a good time snacking on their favourite dishes like the vadam, roti, mutter masala, watermelon and not to forget the icecream. It was a delight to see madhur enjoying his soup. Such a tiny mouth blowing away the heat and slurping on the soup. look foward to many such get togethers..

Blogging

Hi all, I always wondered why people blog, well I realised it is a good past time. I love to talk and who better company than the computer. So here i start my journey...